The human heart is easily swayed
And often betrayed
At the hand of emotion.
We dare not leave the outcome to chance;
We must choose in advance
Or live in agony
Such needless tragedy
Jon Mohr – Guard Your Heart
The human heart is easily swayed he writes. Perhaps it’s because our human nature so often seeks understanding in most everything.
Logic is most sought after by our desperate hearts in search of – how, when and why.
We live in a life that faith alone has been defined as not good enough to defy the logic that we so search for.
When we say wait for the one, it’s almost an impossible request to ask of one whose desperate heart seeks logic in order to wait.
How long one has to wait also needs to be spelled out in order for one to actually wait.
Waiting then if you think about it, is not waiting at all, as it is only a matter of time before logic steps in and waiting then becomes a memory.
Such is the story of modern day relationships.
How many times do we see a beautiful, intelligent young lady fall into the arms of an uncaring, ungrateful, ungodly man.
How often have you opened up your doors to a friend because the one they gave their heart to beat their fragile body crazy
Or perhaps answered a mid-night call from a friend who believes the one they gave their heart to is with another woman.
I am reading the book – Lady in Waiting and I must say I truly am enjoying every bit of wisdom that binds this book.
In the book Jackie and Debby write that much like the government agencies that regulate the standards of food, so should be the decision of a lifelong partner.
A lifelong relationship demands the highest standards of regulation. There are men breathing in the planet today who can handle such scrutiny and be found “worth waiting for.” – page 126
Patience in waiting is that door that shields ones heart from unnecessary heartache.
It means that instead of seeking someone to complete you, we seek one who will compliment us all to His glory, because when one has not found completeness on her own, then there is no amount of love that will ever fill that empty bucket.
Avoid men who shower you with words of praise even before they get to know you.
They say they are Christians but their actions don’t speak for them.
They often portray what you desire in a husband, and yet some characteristics don’t add up.
They can be overly charming and much like sales men, they can sale themselves into your heart and soon into your bedroom.
They sometimes try to sway you to let loose of your beliefs, so that they can have their way into your heart.
They are most often impatient and eventually if you stand your ground their true colors will show up.
These initial signs are often enough to get us to back away and seek God’s direction on what to do next. Most often God will drive them away if we let Him do His work.
A man worth waiting for is a:
Spirit-controlled Christian (Eph 5:18)
Jesus is #1 in his life, not just an ornament (Mk. 12:30)
Broken; understands how to rely totally upon Jesus (Phil. 4:13)
Ministry-minded; wherever he is, he is available (1 Cor. 4:2)
Motivator; man of vision, concerned about lost souls (Roman 10:14)
Sensitive spirit; in tune to the needs of others (Gal. 6:2)
Understands the awesome responsibility of a husband to his wife (Eph. 5:25-31)
Humble enough to be a disciple (teachable) and able to disciple others (Mat. 28: 19-20)
Man of prayer; he knows the key to success is his private time with God (Col. 4:2)
Family man; he desires to have children and raise them properly for God’s glory (Prov. 212:6) –page 127-128
We are our own worst enemy.
We avoid setting standards because our desperate nature kicks in, and we think the only way to keep a man is to let loose of our beliefs.
Avoid mr. wrong by setting clear standards and boundaries.
Yesterday we talked about the analogy of waiting being much like having a cake in the middle of a diet. When we deviate from waiting because the cake looks so good, then we can only expect to have problems ahead.
Don’t eat the cake before it’s time. And definitely don’t eat it all alone.
Seek God every step of the way. Never walk this path without the Holy Spirit.
Don’t jump into anything without God’s confirmation. It’s His approval we should be after and not mans. After all, His promises are for good and not for evil.
Lady in waiting…there are good, godly men out there. Are you willing to trust God and wait on him?
The Lord says in Psalms 37:7 that we should “Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him
A man worth waiting for, will also be a man worth loving